*I had been growing increasingly grumpy an unsatisfied with life and wasn't sure why... that is until I spoke with my sis one day. She helped me realize that I had lost myself. When entering a relationship it is easy to lose who we are and chameleon-ize for that other person - whether it be to impress the new significant/their family or because you feel pressured to conform. When I got married I had a whole other family very different from my own, new people at church, and I freaked out a bit. I knew married life would be different, but I didn't realize how different. What has made it so difficult is trying to be a new person. I thought, "Now I'm married I have to be like this, this, and this." Well I hate it and I'm not doing it anymore. I haven't felt like myself in a VERY long time, but I'm slowly regaining my footing on who I am and who I'd like to be. Just be you! This advice goes for a relationship at any stage. No one likes an imitation. I mean, really, who actually prefers Mr. Pibb to Dr. Pepper?
*I have a newfound hatred for nagging and rude people. If you constantly nag someone and are shocked that they avoid you, you are an idiot. That's like chowing down on ice cream every day and being surprised you got fat. And rude people with a lack of manners shows a lack of respect for others. Especially for someone you are in a relationship with. If you are constantly disrespecting the one you're with, and think they will just take it, you're in for a rude awakening. Trying to build someone up instead of bringing them down to your miserable level is much better because they will try to bring you up with them.
*Honesty can hurt and hurt bad, but it is crucial to any healthy relationship. It's like resetting a bone so it can heal properly. If left alone you're going to have a messed up arm or leg. If you let something fester between you and your significant it's going to get messed up.
*Last random item of the week - I just read this article on MSN.com and found there to be a great lesson in it http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=23709555>1=32023
I hope all is going well and as always, I'm here if you need me XOXO
Hey, what conversation was that? I totally don't remember anything like that. Anyway, whatever it was, I'm glad it helped. Love your comment about getting fat. You're funny. And definitely down with rude people!!
ReplyDeleteIt was the convo we had at Walmart while waiting for New Moon, about lame people who are fake.
ReplyDeleteSeriously there should be a ban against people without manners! Or some sort of rehab for them.
I like your last post. I truly feel that one is brought to a relationship for their specific qualities as to what they will bring to that relationship that will benefit it. Although, I feel its important to point out that along the road of marriage and relationships, that the other person is brought into your life to teach and bring about a change that would have never been made otherwise, hopefully positive. Sometimes these changes feel saddening because often the other person is pointing out a flaw of our own, whether vocally or just through interaction. I guess to sum it up, humility is important, and if you trust the other person with the changes that the relationship and life can bring and truly try to grow and change together and become one by relying on eachother rather than anyone else, the outcome will be a more intimate, understanding, and respected relationship.
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